Updates 近况更新

Victor三个月大了，现在上网时间断断续续，不能时常更新Blog，用照片写周记，给关心June一家人的亲朋好友们看喽！

5/2 Kids playing computer games

5/2 Friends from US and Shanghai，那日Kevin从美国来上海出差，同学们和学长特地到苏州聚餐，让June非常感动。  

5/9 Wisnton went outing with his classmates.

Winston has been very nice and patient to his baby brother. 我觉得Victor就像是我、Richy、和 Winston的孩子，我们都很宝贝他。每天Winston回到家第一句话，就是带着北京腔的“小淘气，哥哥回来了。”

5/15  Reading story to Victor

My family-in-law visited Suzhou during 5/9-5/23. 家裡上演 “婆婆来了”，媳婦June没瘦，倒是Richy和其他人都变瘦了，因为Richy周末带着家人去了上海，还去南京爬上中山陵。Richy的说法是：June虐待了他和家人。  (6/10Richy又胖回原形了）

Food made these days: 蛋黄酥 & Apple-pie 

早餐新寵 ，養生馒头； 舊爱面包仍是餐桌常客。

端午节，我做了近百颗粽子，本以为小赵能帮上忙才加码的，结果，教了几次，她还是不太会包粽子。

我只好（從早到晚)包下全部了。真的很好吃，我包粽子的速度也被这次经验给增进不少。

图片里的粽子是在冰箱裏僅存的，大部分的都送人或下肚了。

 

以上是June‘s Family 近况报告。

感恩!

Best Wishes to All~

Crying out is healthy --If you want to cry, must read this

Sorry, this story is not one of my originals. You have to click here to generate some tears: James Blog




June's comment
I cried while reading the story. I can understand very much the feelings of the woman who married to a man trying to please his parents. I think many couples suffer more or less from communication problem. Communication would work only when two sides are willing to setback and talk things through. And communication would be easier for those who grow up with similar family backgrounds than those who don't. Unfortunately, many times people think communication is the chance to make his point clear and sticking to it for not losing the fight. It just did not work smoothly especially when the matter of family-in-law is involved. Then one side or both sides would suffer unnecessarily. The problems are worse in Asia than America or Europe where woman married to a man doesn't have to marry the whole family. I believe treating family members like friends, respecting their privacy and giving ourselves and other family members freedom, more private time, and space would create a pleasant and joyful family relationship for all. If one side is forcing the other side to put up with something she/he doesn't like, he/she would feel suffocating and would never learn to appreciate others and life, no matter what others (family members) have done for him/her. Compromise will only last temporarily. Relationship out of repeating compromises would eventually break when the hidden time-bomb is ignited by some incident. Many Regrets would then follow.

Among the complicated relationship between husband and wife and between married couple with their families in-law, if you are as lucky as I am, everyone in the family is doing things out of good intentions. When there is argument or fight, it is not the time to say who is right or wrong because everyone is in different shoes and everyone is right in their position. But it is definitely unwise to force others to wear the shoes that don't fit. At this point, most of us are not so lucky to avoid compromises.