The post in one of my chicken soup for mind on the side bar http://http//itrustican.blogspot.com/2009/04/take-responsibility-for-next-step.html? encourages me to introspect. I now, getting out most of the mess of life, is able of keep reminding myself of those words: Don't look back, look forward and don't complain. No blame. I am doing pretty good now.
For most of us who have the control of our own life, it is true that the next step afterwards is more important than what happened in the past. But when I think of those who are still in pain and don't have any choice...
Think of someone whose life is surrounded by so many uncontrollables. How could they look forward and take any constructive next step for their own life.
Take India for example, women born in poverty was a shame to their family and have no rights at all. If you tell them to take any next step to grab a true life that will put their life in jeopardy. I know some women would rather risk their life for freedom, but when they are married with kids, they would not do it for kids' sake. And I believe there are many more women who although live in developed or developing countries, out of their old cultures, suffered from mental abuse by their families around.
Maybe to forget and forgive is the only step they can take. And don't tell them not to cry. Crying may heal the pain.
Or maybe we should said this: if you can not change the environment, then change your mind or attitude. This might be the step to take.
Hope this won't sound too negative. Cheers!
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