2009年4月27日 星期一

Learn with Kids


Since I became a mom, I started playing and learning with my son, not just about piano and violin, but also about attitudes in life.
Kids' behaviors can be a reflection of adults. The only difference is that kids are cuter. However, if parents spoil the cute innocent faces, the cute faces may turn disgusting when they grow up.

Sunday morning, Winston woke up early and before I could spot him he was already on the couch ready to play Wii. Richy just bought some more new game disk. And whenever there were new games, Winston would soon get addictive to it. It was hard to ask him to control his mind and the time in playing Wii. My experiences told me that sticking to the rules and not yielding to his going-to-cry face work. And it became easier time after time because he seemed to understand what I said although he tried to test my limit to his insistence every time.
So Winston obeyed my words to practice piano and violin instead of playing Wii first in the morning. While practicing violin, I found him rushing and absent-minded and we had to start over the same section again. Then I asked him to take a break for a short talk. He was quiet and listening.
I asked : What were you thinking when you were playing violin?
He said: Wii.
I asked again:What are you thinking now?
He was honest and said: Wii.
So, I asked:If you keep Wii in your mind, do you have space for learning and practicing your violin?
He said: No.
I said: Let's remove Wii from your brain now.
He said: OK.
So, I acted like using my hands to get something out of his brain, and said: Now forget the Wii. You should be able to concentrate now.

He told me: Mom, I got three parts in my brain. Here is for piano, here is for violin, and the back is for Wii. You should remove Wii from the back.

That was cute. I did as he said. And we finished practicing violin perfectly and efficiently. Also, we finished the piano practice very fast. The whole practice together only took less than an hour. For a six-year old kid, I consider that is good enough. And Winston realized being concentrated could make things go smoothly.

At last I told him: You should always do what you ought to do first and do whatever you like later. So, next time what is the order of things to do on Sunday morning?

He said: Breakfast, piano and violin, Wii....

So he ran for Wii. No blame!

Richy came out from the other room and told me: The words you just said are great and should apply to yourself.

I knew he meant that I should always do housework before blogging. And it is very true. When I said it out I was reminding myself at the same time. That is the cruel part about learning with kids.


After violin, piano, and Wii, we went out to kick soccer in the park. As usual, many were flying kites in the park but the wind made it difficult to fly kites this time. Winston and Richy played soccer while I was flying the kite. I could not believe that Winston could kick the ball well. He used to kick to the unwanted direction two weeks ago. He had learned soccer from his classmates. They even "kicked" basketball at school when teachers wanted them to practice throwing balls to the basket.


Kids just learn so fast in skills and attitudes.

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5 則留言:

Lorna ~ Lace and Ivy Cottage 提到...

June,
Please come by my blog. I have an award I'd like to give you!

james oh 提到...

June, Congratulation to you for your award from Lace and Ivy Cottage.

I love the wisdom of "do what you ought to do first and do whatever you like later", which i have just learn. Thanks for sharing your effective way of teaching and learning from the kids, at the same time.

Thanks and you are well deserved for the reward.

Cheers and have a fruitful day,

xinex 提到...

Hi June, I can tell that you are a very wise mother. I admire you very much. Keep it up!...Christine

jane 提到...

A-ton 果然勵害,將腦子分成三等份這事我得學一下,這樣下班就可以將工作忘光.或者考慮將腦子分成記快樂,不快樂,值得記與不值得放心上etc...
每天回家就可以決定要將什麼事情delet..
It's really a good idea.

June 提到...

Some of you may have experienced parenting and done well, and some haven't. I am glad that I am in this learning process and enjoy it very much.